'I’ve had a shocker of a day, here’s the photo to prove it'

After she went to her room to have a good cry, this single mum shared a very raw image to let you know you’re not alone.
After she went to her room to have a good cry, this single mum shared a very raw image to let you know you’re not alone. Facebook

INSTEAD of having a crappy day and keeping it to herself, Amy-Lee Mangold decided to get it off her chest over the phone with her sister.

It was then that the single mum realised it was ok to not be ok.

The 26-year-old was sick of pretending that she was managing fine as the sole carer of her 19-month -old son, Theo.

So the Gold Coast mum took to Facebook to let it all out:

"It's OK to not be OK.

"Today I had a break down.

"Being a single mum is tough. Being a single mum to a 19 month old that doesn't want to sleep is even tougher.

"I have next to no support around me. I have my son full time, his dad has nothing to do with us.

"Today after I settled my son from his tantrums and popped him infront of the tv, I went to my room and cried.

"Oh I cried so much. This isn't the mum I want to be. I want to be full of smiles and happy all the time, but life has got on top of me.

"Normally I don't tell anyone when I'm struggling this much. But today I did and it made a difference to express how I felt.

"Remember to not bottle up how you feel. Talk to someone. Anyone. Message me if you need to.

"I live on the Gold Coast so if there is any mummies on the Gold Coast that are doing it tough, let me know and we can catch up and talk and laugh or cry!!

"Just remember it is OK to not be OK, being a mummy is tough work."

Amy was blown away by the massive response she has received.

"I didn't expect much reaction at all to be honest, maybe a few comments and some more likes. I know people don't like to talk about how they feel," she told Kidspot.

"I couldn't keep up with the comments but I tried my hardest to write back to other mums who commented if they were doing it tough.

"I was surprised by the private messages I also received of mums who don't have much support or feel they can't speak up without feeling like a 'failure' - something they are definitely not!"

The overwhelming reaction has been very cathartic for the young mum who sees her brother every couple of weeks but her sister lives interstate, and she has no support from her parents.

"The next day I woke up to tons of notifications and messages but I felt amazing. I absolutely love helping others and to know by posting what I had, I had truly helped other mums to realise they are not alone in this parenthood gig," she said.

"I don't have a lot of friends around me, only a couple that I catch up with every few weeks as I'm not originally from the Gold Coast, but I do have friends I can talk to if I need to. I just found it hard to open up without feeling like a failure, but I now know I'm not. It's normal to have bad days."

Because Amy is doing it on her own - she has not been able to get into the workforce just yet.

"Being a single mum has been a tough gig, so I am still a stay-at-home mum. Hoping to get into work soon. It's just a matter of finding a great boss who won't fire me the first time," she admitted.

"I can't go to work if my son is sick or something (this isn't just a struggle for single parents, it's definitely tough for us all)."

Amy can't understand why 'ARE YOU OK?' is only once a year.

"This is a question that we should ask our friends and family or even a stranger if they look they are doing it tough, as often as you feel necessary," she says.

"Or don't be ashamed to say that you are not ok, because that is ok."

If you are experiencing mental health issues or suicidal feelings, contact Lifeline on 13 11 14 or Beyond Blue 1300 224 636. If it's an emergency, call 000

This article originally appeared on Kidspot and has been reproduced here with permission.

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