A WISE friend told me you should never base your self-worth on the attentions of others, particularly those of the opposite sex.
And I wholeheartedly agree. It is a mantra we should all tell ourselves.
But I can also say with absolute conviction this mantra is the hardest to live by when your feelings have been crushed.
So embarrassing admission number… I've lost count.
I was recently dumped and it was rough. Five months in and he led me to believe things were going somewhere, then out of the blue I got the news over text and it involved another girl.
I was gutted. Dumped, for another girl and told over text. And in the wake of this my thoughts turned immediately to: what's wrong with me?
Not only is that very reactive and emotionally unhealthy, it's hardly a proactive approach to remembering that I am in fact freaking awesome.
And, as hard as it can be to stomach, sometimes no matter how badly we want something it's just not meant to be.
This isn't a rant about all men being disrespectful jerks, because I don't feel that way.
I'm pushing the message that our true value rests in how we regard ourselves. And you know what; sometimes we let people into our lives that are too stupid to see that value.
While others can make us feel happy, angry and even incredibly sad, they should never be given the power to dictate how we feel about ourselves. That alone rests with each of us.
So I thought I'd end this with a quote from Barney Stinson, which really are words to try and live by: 'when I get sad, I stop being sad and be awesome instead'.
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